Life Update
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his post is a little different today. Life has a way of shifting our schedules and testing our time management, and this past weekend was a whirlwind. I found myself racing to Tennessee because my grandmother—91 years young and still full of personality—had fallen ill. We all know that going back to certain places can be heavy. For me, Tennessee carries a lot of trauma and pain. But even in the middle of that history, God continues to teach me more about His love and His standards for my life.
When the Storm Hits
When sickness knocks on the door, emotions get heightened. The uncertainty of health for someone you love is already "messy." When you layer that with long histories of unspoken pain, it can quickly turn into a storm of amplified hurt. This weekend, my eyes were opened. I realized that progress can feel real one day, but it only takes one moment of miscommunication for old patterns of cursing and yelling to resurface. I had to remind myself—and those around me—that being stressed about a loved one’s health doesn’t give us a license to use "unwholesome talk" that tears others down (Ephesians 4:29). We are all hurting, but we are all responsible for our own maturity.
Healing is Not a Passive Act
We often think of healing as something that just happens with time, but I’ve learned that healing is actually hard work. It’s a deliberate choice to break cycles. When sickness or crisis hits, emotions become heightened and the uncertainty takes hold. In those moments, it is tempting to fall back into old patterns of yelling or letting our anger speak.
God has shown me that true healing requires accountability for our own maturity.
To transform a complicated relationship into a healthy one, you have to be willing to be vulnerable—with yourself, with God, and with others.
With Yourself: Having the self-respect to acknowledge that I am no longer the person I used to be. I am moving Forward, and that means refusing to stay stuck in patterns that God has already delivered me from (Philippians 3:13-14).
With God: Admitting that I can't carry the weight of past trauma on my own and casting that care on Him (1 Peter 5:7).
With Others: You must be honest about the hard topics, even when it’s uncomfortable. Healthy relationships require the hard work of direct communication, even when it feels risky.
Healing builds a foundation of self-respect that refuses to be pulled back into the "same games" or manipulation God already delivered us from (Philippians 3:13-14). Healing isn't just something that happens to you; it’s something you work for. It’s a labor of love for yourself and for your future. When we are squeezed by stress or old family dynamics, what comes out of us reveals where we are in our journey.
True healing means choosing a different "ammunition." It means reaching for a "gentle answer" (Proverbs 15:1) even when the atmosphere around you is harsh. It’s about recognizing that while we can't control how others act, we are 100% accountable for our own maturity and how we represent God in the storm.
Mi enfoque ahora es la transformación. No se trata de señalar errores, sino de elegir un camino mejor:Le pido a Dios que nos guíe y nos llene de su paz. Decido dejar atrás las ofensas para seguir hacia adelante. La sanidad requiere esfuerzo, pero el resultado es una vida llena de respeto propio y amor genuin.
My focus now is transformation. It is not about pointing out mistakes, but choosing a better path: I ask God to guide us and fill us with his peace. I decide to leave the offenses behind to move forward. Health requires effort, but the result is a life full of self-respect and genuine love.
Moving forward doesn't mean the past didn't happen; it means the past no longer has the power to dictate my present. I am choosing to protect the peace God has given me. I am choosing the hard work of healing because I know the version of me that God is building is worth the effort.